Selasa, 17 Maret 2009

10 Reasons Positive after Divorce

Life lived after the divorce was very heavy. You are used to being under one roof with the couple forced to separate. Families who used to be split in a comprehensive whole, yet behind this big test of your face hard times after the divorce should still think and be positive.

It's sometimes embarrassing divorce over the disgrace tarnished in the household. It's like a failure in one of its biggest projects of your life. Of course if this was not anticipated to be very painful and disrupt your life that must continue after the divorce.

It takes a lot of emotional stages to go through these feelings and feel better again. I am sure you will be able to get through it all, and here ten reasons why you should still feel positive after a divorce. Hopefully this can help you

1. Face reality
When childhood, sometimes we're together playing with friends 'family'. There is a role as a father, mother and children. This tacitly shape our thoughts on the future of the concept of family is intact. But no doubt you are actually confronted with the reality that makes dreams intact families who expected it could not materialize.

These realities include the fact of life that everyone has a different understanding of a marriage. Her love of your spouse who has run out could not make you force love. Instead of focusing on a marriage that failed, you'd better steel my-self to survive fighting 'storm' after the divorce.

2. Prove your-self
Divorce is not easy, as easy as making a request parted and everything will go fine. Do not be surprised if after a divorce, you will be impressed being branded selfish and evil because you do not care about feelings such as children and families. But in the process of life that are running, you must remain confident and show that you dare to take a stand to live even without a partner. That your decision to divorce is right and best for all, I'm sure as time goes by, people around you will begin to learn to understand your decision.

3. Life must go on
No doubt life after divorce would be considered heavy emotionally, financially and socially. But after the trauma of divorce haunted life and it makes you hesitate to walk. Never be afraid. Starting a new life after divorce is a change in a positive direction. Find out for yourself who had 'disappeared', and you have full rights to enjoy life more happy.

4. Anything Is Possible
Divorce faced sometimes force you to undergo a very cruel bad days. But believe me any good day will surely come up to you. Do not rein yourself in a crash, you deserve happiness. Show yourself the positive side of life and everything will be fine in time.

5. Family and friends are the best
Whatever happens after the divorce, never forget your family and friends. They are always there and giving spirit and sincere attention to you in times of heavy through the day after the divorce. Your wounds may not heal completely after the divorce but their presence which pervades your life will help you heal the wound.

6. Looking Good
After divorce, a course of transformation can’t be avoided. But that is something expected, change for the better. After the divorce you may be faced with the day-to-day, week after week, month after month to make your life as worthless. / Images / all out, show that you're better than ever. The key is to find inner happiness and strength to survive. Tell yourself that you are a real, sexy and confident.

7. Removing the burden
If you want to provide the best for your life, never waste time dissolved in hatred and anger, therefore the damage yourself. Deliver an onerous burden and move your shoulder. Share stories with friends, going to breath a little relief to your life that crammed a lot of post-divorce problems. Have fun 'release' burden and say goodbye to the past life of your marriage first.

8. Enjoying a sense of relief
It is still associated with the previous points 'off load'. There was relief when we want to try to remove the burden of problems that occur after a divorce. Whatever it is that has happened and now is a learning experience for the better and become adults. You can start all over again, although you have to fight yourself to get up from the downturn. With relief that surrounds your life, surely you could optimistic that runs through the process of recovery.

9. Keeping the children's feelings
Although it has been separated from spouse, children remain the responsibility of you and your partner. Their hearts are injured on the separation of his parents not to ignored, Sick because they might be labeled as a child of the family 'broken home', families who fail.

As a wise man, you're with your partner is obliged to provide a good example for your children should receive both parents facing divorce. Keep in maintaining and fostering good relations between you and the kids will increasingly strengthen that has never been cracked. Remember, it is never the term of former ex-father or mother. Show that you and your partner remain mutually supportive and compact in front of the children even though you both are no longer bound. This created a constant closeness good for them to build more mental strength to face the problems of life.

10. See the Future
Do not ever look back, it would only make you hurt. Put it on the steering mirror of your life, so any time you are 'forced' to look back, you can simply glance spoin behind the glass next to the wheel. Create in the past as you are learning to live better and more wisely. No need to open old wounds, because life is waiting ahead of you to live. Please always continue feel Optimistic.

Whoever does not want a separation or divorce, but if it must be faced, face it with strong hearts. Believe it, the transition to divorce this can be very useful. Relationship that no longer can be sustained only will be a poison and thorns in your life.

And this is precisely restrain and imprison dream of self-expression, Wise, you can take the positives from this separation. You will be more refined to be more sensitive to the desires of couples and what you want out of life. So, divorce is not the end of your life, ladies!

Tidak ada komentar:

Posting Komentar